Yet, the other day I felt like a bad mom, a bad wife and not really doing good at life in general. I am constantly tired so I go to bed early, and I get woken up in the middle of the night by a crying child and so I tend to oversleep. When I get "free" time I don't really feel like going out, I feel like putting on something comfy and reading (and catching up on) blogs, writing, facebooking, tweeting and/or pinning. I mean, is that so wrong? Hell, at least I walked out of the house with pants on in the morning and didn't cuss out or punch anyone (who I shouldn't have) at the end of the day, what more do people want from me?!!
But when the Sgt. said something to me that made me think, "Man where did I go?!" I, first of all, got all butt-hurt for about half a day. Then, I revamped my thinking. I made old goals/regimes new again and I thought of ways to get ME back, which is really hard when you got a little one who you want to devote all your time to ensuring he becomes an A+ Student/Popular/Well-adjusted/Class President/rock star/Olympian/astronaut/heroically good Samaritan. The number one thing that came to mind though was I enjoyed myself more when I made time for others and brought joy to them. Now don't get me wrong, bringing joy to my son is loads of awesome, but sometimes doing stuff for other people besides him is super rewarding too. Really, isn't that what life should be about? Helping others, enjoying others and doing what you can to put a better foot forward? So I'm making a better effort to get back in contact with those ones important to me and that keep me going (unknowingly) with their positive attitudes, and doing things for them in return and hopefully I'll find that happiness again that brought me renewed energy every day, and gave me the motivation to get through my week.
The Sgt. noticed he was in a rut too and so we've been pushing each other to get into the gym and re-working our schedules when we get home to not immediately veg out on the couch. We have been putting a bucket list of things to do in San Diego as a family or just as a couple before we get out of the Marine Corps and move to, well, actually we haven't figured that out yet, but we won't be here forever. The thing is sometimes with life, you get stuck. Unfortunately it can also creep up on you and you don't even know you're stuck, but the best thing to do is get up, shake the crap off of you and get going.
Does anyone else feel like they unknowingly get into a rut like I did with becoming a mom? How do you get yourself out of it? Is it personal journey or do you tell others and they keep you accountable?
Some incredible people (Christine Candelaria, Lela Davidson, Celena Gill, Jim Higley and Stephanie Dulli) I know have some tips for getting their families moving and away from the every day blahs
How to Remove Obstacles that Keep Our Families from Moving - iVillage
